Friday, May 8, 2009
"Mother Self-Nurture Culture"
Donna Goff of Orem, Utah spoke of the importance of creating a culture for yourself that increases your ability to nurture others. She also talked of how it's important to nurture in your daughters a desire and ability to nurture others. She spoke of how this is not a generally accepted part of our culture today as the general culture today encourages young woman to have a career outside the home. At the beginning of the talk, she suggested that if you view God as your pilot in life and you as the co-pilot, that might not be the best course to take. You should let God be the pilot in your life and take a backseat to Him.
Donna said that part of taking care of ourselves is going to bed early, following the commandment in the Doctrine and Covenants to "retire to thy bed early." She stated that when we stay up late (she defined this as past 10:00), especially at the computer, we trick our bodies into thinking that it's still day. The light of a computer monitor does this. Then our bodies start running on our adrenal glands to give us energy. In the long run, this is not good for our bodies. We just get more stressed as our adrenals get overworked. She said that it is a myth of the adversary to think "well, I'm just a night person," as an excuse for staying up late.
(I personally can testify to this. I used to think that I was allergic to mornings. I would stay up later and later, especially as a young mother when my husband was out of town a lot for business travels for three or four nights in a row, week after week. I had three little children ages four and under and I thought the only time I could "get something done" was after they went to bed. But ten years later, I have repented. I got a burning motivation to write a book, and I could see that it just worked better for my body and my family to get up earlier instead of staying up later. After almost three years of working on my book, it's about to get published. I know that God helped me to overcome the pull of the mattress in the wee hours of the morning.)
Donna claimed that to take care of ourselves, women must learn and practice the homemaking arts. This seems somewhat surprising. Isn't that what we do to take care of others in our families, not ourselves? She said that the baby boomer females were the first generation that was not taught this. Now, generations later, we still have the majority of women in our society who are raised focused on a career and not homemaking. Donna asserted that as we learn the homemaking arts alongside our daughters so that they learn to do them too, following the example of Deuteronomy 6:6-7, we will nurture ourselves and our families.
Donna talked about the importance of turning problems over to the Lord. She told the story of a time when her husband was out of work after just suffering a stress-induced heart attack. A friend told her to just give the problem to the Lord. She said she thought that she had. The friend said "Yes, but you keep taking it back." That made me wonder if I am doing the same thing with some persistent problems in my own life. Hmmmm......